DDLG Advice Column: Long Distance Daddy Dom (Episode 3)

Hi there! Here at Little Space Life, we get a LOT of great questions from our email list about DDLG and the kink lifestyle in general. While I’m going to eventually reply to everyone (I promise!), in the meantime I pass a select few questions onto our resident sexpert, Lady Promethea, who does her best to get to the bottom of it.

Today we have a very common situation: long distance relationships. Sigh.

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Dear Lady Promethea,

My daddy and I are long distance. What are some great little dates that we can do together?

Thanks in advance,

Alone in Albany


Dear Alone in Albany,

Long distance relationships (or LDRs, for short) can be very rewarding yet very difficult relationships to maintain.

Distance can make the heart grow fonder but it can also place a wedge between the individuals.

 However, there are plenty of activities you and your Daddy can do together, even when you are far apart!

Here are some tried, tested and true ways to keep the fire burning and the loneliness at bay:


1. Voice and Video Calls:

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Whether you use Skype, WhatsApp, Google Hangouts or Discord (probably the best method) you can engage in voice or video calls.

Sometimes just hearing your loved one’s voice or seeing their face is enough to push away the sad feelings for a time.

I would suggest setting up a specific time every week so that it becomes something of a routine.

2. Watch Cartoons Together:

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Using Discord or rabb.it, you can stream Netflix, YouTube, Crunchyroll… just about anything you can watch online – and be able to voice chat at the same time!

That way it is as if your Daddy is right there with you, watching your favourite cartoons!

3. Assignments and Tasks

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Maybe you are a little who has a hard time eating or doing chores.

Or perhaps you have activities you enjoy doing like colouring or reading. Work with your caregiver to come up with a schedule that you adhere to.

To prove you’ve done the thing, you can send gifs or pictures to your caregiver!

Sometimes you can even create a chore chart together that is updated throughout the week online which is especially helpful if you or your caregiver are too busy to voice chat or video chat daily!

4. Long Distance Sex Toys

If you miss sexual intimacy with your Daddy, phone sex, video sex and mutual masturbation are all very useful in a LDR.

If you and your Daddy enjoy impact play, purchase a paddle or flogger so that they can give you instruction that you follow through with while you are in the call.

If you enjoy shibari, purchase some rope, do some research and watch some tutorials on some simple ties that you can both enjoy.

If you enjoy your partner having control over your orgasm, there are wonderful distance sex toys that you can both use that sync up to an app through your wifi.

As you can see, being far apart does not mean you will have to be lonely! Give some of these a try and see how it can change your outlook!

As always,

I remain,

Lady Promethea

DDLG Advice Column: Daddy Issues (Episode 1)

DADDY ISSUES: A Kinky Advice Column

Episode 1: Am I A Little?

A new regular advice column featuring a special guest author answering your questions about petplay, dd/lg, and the kink lifestyle in general.

You’ve got questions….

I put out a call out in our newsletter for questions about the kink lifestyle.

We got a LOT of responses, and they’re extremely interesting.

We’ve got answers!

I wanted to get really good answers to the questions for you.

So I called in an expert.

Presenting…Lady Promethea.

She’s going to be answering your questions on a regular basis!

Our First Edition

In our first week, we have a question from an interested reader.

I’ve kept them anonymous, of course.

If you want to submit questions of your own, subscribe to our mailing list!

Question 1 – Becoming A Little.

Dear Lady Promethea,

How would I go about finding out if I’m a little or not? I’m into BDSM and petplay, but is it possible to have a Little side as well?

Love,

(Maybe) Little In Lichtenstein

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Dear Little In Lichtenstein,

It is definitely possible to have multiple submissive headspaces – littlespace being one of them.

Sometimes interest is sparked by something as simple as having a desire to use a certain object (example, a pacifier), or perhaps to exhibit a certain personality trait (example, innocence or naivety).  

The basis of littlespace is wanting to be in an environment and headspace where you can express yourself without fear. It is also a space where you can take on more infantile or less mature expressions.  

It is a space where you can release yourself from your usual responsibilities and feel safe knowing that your dominant (often referred to as your caregiver, Daddy or Mommy) is guiding and caring for you and your needs.  

The little space headspace is different for everyone.  

Some people involve an element of ageplay where they may act younger than their actual age and so may use “littlespeak” (using more childlike phraseology and diction), or even become completely non-verbal, acting like they only understand simpler concepts, enjoy snuggling stuffies, sucking binkies, drinking from bottles, playing with toys, coloring and watching cartoons.

These actions help them get into their little space easier and also act as a way to relieve stress from the day. Some headspaces have a specific age or age range, while others do not.

One of the ways to see if you might enjoy being a little is to figure out what about the dynamic appeals to you.

Do you like the idea of giving up control and responsibility to your better?

Does the idea of having that authority figure care for you, give you tasks and discipline you excite you and bring a smile to your face?

Do you find comfort in snuggling stuffies, relaxing to cartoons and coloring?

Then you may very well be a little.

Generally speaking, being little means being able to enjoy a bit of time in a world where responsibilities are set aside, you are able to be carefree, playful, feel cared for and safe.

I would suggest setting some time aside during your day to try some of the fun little activities mentioned to see if this type of kink appeals to you.

Enjoy your journey in little space!

I remain,

Lady Promethea

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How To Anal Train (UPDATED)

Introduction

Anal sex is fast becoming a more regular part of many couple’s sexual lives. Although it isn’t quite normalized–many couples still don’t participate in it–those that are are finding it an extremely interesting part of their sensual encounters. But before jumping into anal intercourse, it’s sometimes a good idea to work into anal penetration. Anal training kits are created specifically to help train the human body to take anal penetration. Therefore, if you’re already an anal pro — or are new to anal — here’s precisely how to use a anal training kit.

What’s Anal Training?

You need one of our anal training kits–they come with three different butplugs in different sizes. This kit would be the absolute best method to start experimenting with anal play since they’re solid (which assists in clipping), smooth on the outside, tapered towards the very top, curved towards the top (additionally for simple insertion), plus they have a security bottom so the plug does not get missing the rectal canal. These plugs should be utilized sequentially to gently extend the rectal opening.

Now you start with on the smallest plug, use a decent amount of lube (be sure that the brand you select works with your plugs.)  Put lube on the plug AND on your anal opening. Have your significant other (or you can do yourself) GENTLY push up the plug into your rectal canal till it kind of gets “sucked” up indoors and the bottom is flush against you around the exterior. You may rock the plug out and in, push steady and slow, or even push a bit in and retract a bit at precisely the exact same moment. The recipient must push OUT (as if you’re having a bowel movement) since the plug has been pushed in. NEVER push it complete on in or push it.

Preparing for Anal Sex

Many people are afraid about the cleanliness of anal sex. What you might have seen in pornography, spontaneous anal intercourse, is largely a dream. Actors and actresses prep for anal scenes, and that prep could involve something as intense not eating the day before and certainly includes anal douching. Douching is secure and simple. You can either get a disposable enema kit or an anal douche. If using an enema kit, replace the fluid with warm tap water, insert and expel. You might want to do this a couple times before the expelled fluid is clear. With that 1 concern off your mind, and I know I have changed enough diapers to want to limit my contact with mood-killing poop, you might find you’re already a great deal more relaxed and excited to get going.

Lube For Anal Play

Break out the lube. Everybody needs lubricant for anal intercourse. While the vagina self-lubricates, the anus doesn’t, making lube an absolute requirement. Never mind that you have noticed some guy spitting on a porn star’s buttocks before ramming it home, for one, she might be pre-lubed using a water-based product and the spit is rehydrating it, for two, she is a sexual athlete and you are likely not and last, the use of prodigious quantities of lube no doubt occurred before the filming started or ended up on the cutting room floor. I really like porn but I would be happier if pornography was prefaced with a warning — trained professionals, please don’t try these feats in your home. Thick, gel such as lubes generate a cushioning effect that makes them perfect for anal play. As you may know people who use desensitizing lubricants for anal play, I do not recommend it. Desensitizing your bottom will not help you unwind and because these products calms the nerves, so you won’t feel pain or distress. And pain is important; it is your body’s natural warning system and lets you know when something is wrong before things go too far awry. By flushing yourself, you risk irritation or even significant damage to all those delicate anal tissues.

How to Have Good Anal Sex

Well, this is actually up to you and your partner. The majority of folks will have vaginal or foreplay sex while the plug is in your ass.It makes the vagina feel a bit “tighter”, but it is incredible pleasurable. Men are also able to feel the plug on their prostate, enhancing the stimulation of the penis and causing “prostate orgasms”.

Slowly work your way from the smallest to the largest plug, maybe even over the course of several months. Don’t over-exert yourself–the anus is fragile and can be overstimulated.  If you think you wish to move up, do this by following the first suggestions — significance, use more lube, proceed slowly, do not push your entire body. You can most certainly go bigger, simply let your spouse lead you.

Be Horny

Be horny. It helps to be really excited, so prepare with plenty of foreplay. Whether you go down on each other, participate in some sensual massage or touching, it’s all good so long as it turns you on. Also, consider stimulating the area surrounding the anus before diving in with fingers, toys or penises. The anus is anxious, you do not want to dive right in or it’ll tighten up like a clam shell with distress and frustration probably ensuing.

Physically Train Your Anus

A lot of men and women do anal training to train their body to take anal intercourse. As soon as you get into the biggest anal plug, as well as your body has adjusted to getting the plug in, you are able to move to anal intercourse. Anal intercourse will be a lot simpler and more agreeable if your body has been stretched somewhat by the rectal plug. To do this you’d find the greatest plug inserted as previously. When the individual accepting the sticks has rested, then you’re able to get rid of the anal plugin, utilize MORE lube, operate on anal penetration.

The rectal canal will remain bloated (opened) to get just a bit of time when the plug was taken away, but it is going to return to its initial size. This means, when the anal plug was removed, add more lube and continue to anal penetration straight away. Here is the very best approach to utilize a training group for anal intercourse.

Consider gloves. Gloves can avoid scratching and discomfort from ragged fingernails and give a silky smooth surface that works great with lube. No oil-based lubes with latex gloves, as oil will degrade the glove. Additionally, gloves make for easy clean up, just take’em off and throw’em. Women should be particularly cautious of using oil based lubes for anal intercourse; they are generally thin and can trickle into the vagina sending rectal germs where it does not belong.

Just say no to ass-to-vaginal sex. Never, ever, ever go from anal intercourse to vaginal without using condoms and shifting them between orifices. In spite of this precaution, washing the thing that came out of your buttocks after removing the condom is very much advisable before inserting said object to a vagina.

Try Butt Plugs

Experiment with butt plugs. Butt plugs are a terrific way to get ready for anal sex. To begin with, since you can either add it yourself or have your spouse insert it. You can try several sizes and shapes and materials until you find your perfect fit. Secondly, you may well realize that you like to wear your butt plug during the day simply because it keeps you in an aroused state. I’ve got my mind set on trying butt plug Pilates but have not braved that one yet. When you remove the plug, which may be done privately or as part of play, your bottom will be more accepting. No, you are not going to get all stretched out; your muscles will have rested a bit and will soon return to their normal state.

Push. Although this might appear counter-intuitive, bearing down relaxes your muscles. Try it. When you press or squeeze, your muscles tighten, when you bear down muscles ease. If you are nearly but not quite there, before giving up, try to push against the thing entering your bottom. Pushing is just another reason that doing a mild anal douche can help you relax, you’re going to make certain nothing unexpected will be looking.

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Go slowly. Use your fingers or a tiny anal toy (provided that it’s a flanged base, this can prevent a not so alluring visit to the ER to retrieve a missing toy). Allow it to take so long as it takes to get comfortable and feel confident. If today isn’t the day, fine, you can try again another day.

Experiment with various positions. In seated posture, you can try lowering yourself on the cock and moving at your own pace. If you are in a doggie position, back up on the penis. Feeling in control is just another terrific way to relieve anxiety and unwind.

So if the notion of having something on your butt turns you on, proceed, get your lube, douche and butt plug prepared, get excited, play positions and go at your own pace. Anal sex is very pleasurable for many women and men, it is a definite do not knock it until you’ve tried it action.

Butt Plugs: Everything You Need To Know (and waaay more!)

Introduction

Butt plugs are one of the coolest and easiest ways to spice up your sex life! Anal sex can be a great pleasure, and add a spice to an otherwise dull relationship. It’s a very common practice, but also one that requires a bit of instruction. In this guide we’re going to get to the bottom of everything you need to enjoy anal play with butt plugs.

Unlike clitoral or penile stimulation, anal stimulation can be a little tricky in the pleasure department. If it’s too fast, everything tightens up. If it’s too dry, cuts and tears are likely. If there’s too much movement, it can truly be a little sickening. Whether you are a male or a female, if you want to feel yourself on the edge of explosion with anal intercourse and are looking to try out sex toys particular to anal stimulation, then look no further than butt plugs. Whether you’re looking for a rimming feeling, or penetration  that will bang your socks off, there is a trustworthy butt plug out there just for you.

As much as we all love to make light of butt play, the fact is that the anus, both superficially, and inside, is an eddy of sensitive nerve endings. There’s a reason that butt related sex toys are so enjoyable: anal stimulation, whether it’s rimming, or prostate massage, can feel really good.

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In this Complete Guide to Butt Plugs, we will cover Everything You Need to Know!  We’ll also let you know about different kinds of Butt plugs that you can choose from.  Lastly, we’ll cover the minutiae of butt plug maintenance and hygiene. If you want to learn everything about butt plugs, clasp up and continue reading!

Butt plugs are one of the most trendy and enjoyable sex toys for anal play. The simple and clever design of a butt plug helps people to enjoy hands-free anal stimulus for long time. Butt plugs are well-liked because they perform a simple task very efficiently – that is, they stay in place.

Why Butt Plugs vs dildos or vibrators?

Butt plugs are naturally different from dildos and vibrators, and more apt to the particulars of anal penetration. They’re kind of a ‘plug and play’ toy. A butt plug is made to stay in—it has a flared base so that it can sit between butt cheeks at ease. Its base sticks out and allows you to play without worrying about losing a toy inside of you.

The butt plug that goes inside is shaped to stimulate your anus with the kind of stimulus you’re looking for. Some butt plugs are stationary, whereas others are equipped with motors and vibrate. For sure, butt plugs can be used for in-and-out movement in the typical manner; they are just less built for that than other penetration-focused toys such as dildos.

How will you feel when it’s in?

A butt plug can stay in its place during other play, if you are penetrating while getting your prostate massaged or enjoying some rimming, or even if you are going alone. The additional stimulation that a butt plug provides will help to maximize your orgasms.

How to Use a Butt Plug?

The best way to use your butt plug may vary with your experience, and with the kind of stimulation you are seeking during play.

First of all, we’ll cover the universal basics, and after that we will discuss how best to use your plug to get the most out of it for different sexual activities.

Let’s Start with The Basics:

Start Slow: One important thing you should keep in mind before use is that the anal canal is nothing like a vaginal canal—it can be a lot more delicate, and less easy to relax. So it’s very important to start slowly and accept your body’s reaction. Make sure you play a little with your butt plug slowly before trying to go all out. Use as much lube as you need, and massage the outside of your anus. After that, dipping in a little when you feel more relaxed. When you can tell that your entire sphincter has relaxed and is ready to go, slowly insert your plug.

Get Comfortable:

A comfortable position can help immensely when inserting a butt plug in order to keep your sphincter relaxed. To learn which positions work best for you, try a few different positions out and observe how your body reacts.

The basic and most common position is on your back with pillows behind you and your legs up bent towards your chest. You can try lowering yourself onto your plug, or try squatting on all fours in a doggy position and insert it slowly from behind. Whatever position helps your butt relax the most, that’s position for you.

Don’t be afraid to experiment—depending on how intense you go, you may also want to experiment with some anal stretches.

We have broken down the most normal reasons for using a butt plug and how to use your plug to get the most out of it. Keep in mind, a stimulated prostate can give you the most excellent orgasm of your life! And there are lots of advantages to a great orgasm!

• Rimming:

There are butt plugs specially designed to stimulate the anus directly through a “rimming”—or vibrating—sensation. These are typically vibrating butt plugs that vibrate particularly where the plug is pointed, just before it flares out. If you desire to stimulate your anus externally, but not internally, a vibrating butt plug may still work for you. Simply lube up your plug and press its vibrating body against your anus from the outside. This can provide many of the pleasant sensations of anal stimulation without the potential for painful penetration.

• Prostate Massage

If you have a prostate, you should definitely excite it. You’ll want a longer butt plug that is specially designed to reach that pleasurable spot. You can tell prostate massage plugs apart from the others because they are generally longer and curved. You may want to have your penis stimulated while getting a prostate massage to increase the fun, or you may wish for focus on the prostate only – everyone is different.

• G-spot Stimulation

The wall that divides the colon from the vaginal shaft is quite thin, and because of this some people discover that butt plugs help to massage their G-spot. Butt plugs can add a new dimension to vaginal stimulation by reaching those tough to reach spots through the back door.

• Preparing for Anal Sex

Some butt plugs are designed to help you prepare yourself for full penetration. If you are using butt plugs to set yourself for full penetration, then remember to go slow. You should buy a set of butt plugs which increase in size. They are specially designed this way for this very reason, and will help you reach the level of relaxation required for penile intercourse.

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Different Butt Plugs available:

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The Jewel Butt Plug is also pleasurable to wear in play. It is very simple to insert as these are incredibly smooth and finishes with a very sharp tip.  There is no need for much lube is needed.  Once in it feels great. It’s so smooth and so glittery it looks unbelievable. It’s the sort of toy I want to leave laying around for people to see.

You are a princess, always indulged and pampered, used to the uppermost quality extravagance goods accessible. If this depict you, then our princess plugs are perfect for your anal practice. These plugs are presented in lots of shapes and sizes, all made to look astounding and superb, like something out of a fairy tale. There are even gold plugs for that additional bit of magnificence, which will not be lost on someone with as demanding and sophisticated taste as a princess!

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Clean Up Process:

After you are done using your butt plug, you’ll need to clean it. Soap and water works if you do not plan to share it, but wiping with a ten percent bleach solution or boiling plugs that don’t have vibrating or motorized parts helps get them even cleaner!

Care and Maintenance of Your Butt Plug:

A butt plug is an intimate toy, and should be treated as such. If you enjoy using your butt plug ensure you get the most out of it by cleaning it between uses. Maintainin good hygiene and high-quality storage practices will not only increase the lifespan of your toy, it will also help prevent infection.

For anybody who is interested in butt play, we hope our Complete Guide has provide you with that little push you needed to grab a butt plug of your very own. We are sure that your new toy will help you to find new and exciting orgasms you could only previously dream of!

What kind of lube should you use with your butt plugs?

If you try to use a butt plug without use lubrication you can anticipate pain and uneasiness, and you may end up with lasting injuries. Friction is the least sexy thing you can bring into an anal play session, so make sure that whenever the butt plug comes out, the lube does too. Once you have a butt plug of an appropriate size and width, you should lubricate the outside of the rectum again, as well as the inside of the plug. The significance of lubrication in anal play cannot be overstated.

What questions do you have? Are you interested in anal play? Have you checked out our tail plug selection? Let us know in the comments!

The Ultimate Guide TO DDLG And Petplay (UPDATED 2018!)

BY AMANDA SOVAGO-ROYAL, blogger and sex educator.

Based on the widespread popularity of the recent box office hit, 50 Shades of Grey, you’ve most likely heard of the erotic act of roleplaying known as BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, and sadomasochism), but few people are aware of the subsets within BDSM.

Two of the most popular yet controversial BDSM preferences are DDlg and Petplay roleplay.

There are many misconceptions about those particular fetishes that are quickly dispelled once you can plainly define what DDlg and Petplay are, isn’t, and how its done right, and we’ve taken the liberty to do just that in this Ultimate Guide to DDlg & Petplay.

Defining DDlg Once And For All

Before we jump into one of the most controversial subsets of BDSM known as  “DDlg”, we must first point out that this type of relationship dynamic involves consenting adults, and does not involve minors, pedophilia, or incest in any way.

DD/lg roleplay is where one person in the relationship serves as the caregiver (dominant) while the other person serves in a childlike (submissive) state. Although the relationship is agreed upon by adults, the stigma surrounding DDlg, unfortunately, remains in mainstream “Vanilla” mindsets simple due to the “lg” acronym representing the title of “little girl.”

Sure, some relationships involve ageplay (acting or treating another as if they were older/younger than their real age, sexually or non-sexually), but we should keep in mind that some DDlg relationships aren’t sexual at all. Nonsexual DDlg dynamics typically involve play centered around activities like reading bedtime stories, coloring, playing with stuffed animals with BDSM aspects like limitations or spankings when needed.

For relationships involving sex, we could easily argue that this form of roleplay is no different than the typical vanilla fantasy of a sex-crazed secretary whom can’t keep her hands off her married hesitant boss.

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After fantasy comparisons are made the follow-up complaint seems to always be that DDlg promotes sexism, stereotyping men and women into gender roles” but that’s wrong.

Both the dominant and submissive roles can be occupied by both men and women, with the possibility of swapping roles back and forth in cases where parties may identify as versatile ( or “switches”) able to play both D/s depending on how they feel at that moment.

You’ll find that this type of connection is ultimately no more taboo than vanilla relationships we hold as golden standard models every day.

In actuality, DDlg dynamics require more love, care, guidance, and discipline than most, so communication between the parties is the second most important rule (following the rule of consenting adults) in the relationship.

Petplay RolePlay For Laymen

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So you’re probably wondering why we’re talking about pets and DDlg in the same article?

The reason for this is because like DDlg, Petplay is often negatively judged and misunderstood by those outside of the BDSM community.

Though this subset of BDSM has the word “pet” in it, both parties actors are consenting human adults engaging in animalistic play.

The “Owner” (the dominant) will interact with their “pet” (the submissive) who takes on the role of a puppy, kitten, fox, or whatever animal the parties desire. Pet play can also be sexual for some, while nonsexual for others with attentive activities like affectionate belly rubs, playtime with chew toys, training tasks, and discipline.

Sexual petplay partnerships should not be confused with “zoophilia,” a fetish in which sexual roleplays where the human being transforms into an altered mind-space into that of an animal (note: zoophilia is not the same as bestiality which involves real animals).

For more expert tips regarding Pet Play check out our Beginner’s Guide To Fun And Safety.

The Differences Between DDlg & Petplay

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DDlg and Petplay similarities have already been highlighted: Consenting adults, Roleplay, and D/s Relationship Dynamics.

The significant differences between two roleplays would be the equipment.

As with anything the type of equipment one chooses to use to indulge in DDlg and Petplay should be based on personal comfortability but there are some BDSM tools that at first glance seem similar but are worn more so in the DDlg scene or Petplay scene individually.

Leash vs. Chain:

As a DDlg or Petplay submissive you’ll most likely adorn a collar at some point, and your Dominant will want to lead you by that collar for various reasons.

What you’ll see in the DDlg is typically a standard small or medium-sized leather leash being used, whereas in the Petplay scene Owners will often lead their pets around with metal chains more reminiscent of those you’d see on an actual animal for a more realistic play experience for both parties.

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Ball Gag vs. Bit Gag:

Ball gags (usually made of rubber or silicone balls held in the mouth, behind the teeth, by a strap) is worn in the DDlg scene during sex or discipline scenarios.

Bit Gags (also made of rubber or silicone horizontal bar, held in the mouth behind the teeth, by a strap) worn during Petplay for many reasons.

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Butt Plug vs. Pet Plug:

Anal plugs can design using rubber, silicone, metal, and even natural materials like wood.

A typical DDlg butt plug is made of metal and adorned with pastel rhinestones molded into cute shapes such as hearts at the exterior end.

Pet plugs will most likely be rubber or silicone with a connected outer extension about the animal it is intended to represent (ex: puppy, kitten, horse, bunny, pigtails, etc.).

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Onesies vs. Bodystocking:

DDlg onesies are a very popular, as well as the typical cutesy wears such as skirts, leg warmers, dresses and anything colorful and youthful.

For Petplay its common for players to wear body stockings, solid colored or animal print, that reflects the animal they wish to be.

Bodystockings also make the player look more streamline/uniform from head to toe similar to an animal as clothes are for humans, not animals.

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FAQs About The Scene

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“I’m into DDlg or Petplay specifically, how can I get into that scene?”

Online BDSM chat rooms and forum websites like FetLife is a great way to meet people interested and involved in the BDSM community locally and nationally.

There are other ways to go about getting into the BDSM and subset scenes but online is by far the best way for newbies since its online versus in person with the potential dangers.

By mingling online first you can learn more about the scene, open up more freely and anonymously, and watch how others engage with one another to learn acceptable “Do’s & Dont’s” of the scene without having to experience them yourself firsthand.

Look for specific DDlg and Petplay groups, join, engage, and have fun!

“I’m shy, how can I mingle without being awkward?”

The best icebreakers at scene parties are costumes and gear.

If you show up in really cool (whatever that means for you) gear or costumes you’ll definitely have men and women approach you to compliment your wares and strike up a conversation.

If you’re of legal drinking age, enjoy one or two cocktails to loosen up but don’t go over your limit and risk looking sloppy or drive home drunk.

Definitely browse the attendees list reach out to others attending the event beforehand, even a simple introduction of who you are, and chances are you’ll bump into them at the party and already have an acquaintance to mingle with.

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“How can I have fun and be safe at the same time?”

The same dating and safety rules one has would apply in the BDSM scene.

Before engaging in any act (especially anything requiring physical contact) you’ll want to make sure you give and receive consent to any activity that takes place.

Don’t be a wallflower, have fun, but don’t be pushy about getting others to interact with you otherwise you’ll gain a reputation in the community as being a bully and even be blackballed from private events that can be super fun and sexy!

What kind of gear do you need for DDlg or Petplay?

Typical DDlg gear would be collars, pastel bondage sets, butt plugs, “Daddy” clothing, and even pacifiers. For Petplay you’ll definitely need an animal tail (whichever animal you prefer), masks, and body harnesses.

So, now that you’ve officially been given the 411 on the DDlg & Petplay similarities, differences, gear, and scene etiquette you’re no doubt feeling like a kinkalciious roleplay expert. Great! That’s exactly how Buy Tail Plugs wants you to feel.

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7 Best Anal Hooks (UPDATED 2019)

Looking for an anal hook? Want your lover to hook your ass kinkily? You’re in the right place! We’ve rounded up the 7 hottest anal hooks of 2018 and we will present them here!

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This is our most popular option, and also the one we generally recommend, because it has a little bit of everything. Comprising a 25cm anal hook, a butt plug, and a vibrator, it all comes in a beautiful chrome color–perfect for the hard steel aesthetic that typically comes with anal hook play. Get yours today!

Not only that, but butt plug is available in 3 different sizes for those with different levels of flexibility or anal training.

 

There’s something to be said for simplicity. This basic anal hook is completely smooth stainless steel with a perfectly circular ball. It fits players of all sizes, and is 25cm (10″) long. It’s a perfect start for anyone new to the world of anal hookery, or who wants to have a simple, classic option in their collection. And who doesn’t?

Two is always better than one, and that’s as true for anal hooks as anything else. For those slightly more experienced players, or those who are feeling adventurous, you should get this hook with TWO anal balls. It gives you a couple of options for depth–perfect if your dom decides you need to be punished further.

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If two’s better than one, then five HAS to be better than two. This anal hook looks painful, but it certainly could be a pleasurable experience in the right context. Any experienced BDSM player will be able to have a lot of fun with this!

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This one’s a twofer. Get two for the price of one–constrict your sub’s balls while keeping their ass in a vice. For maximum constriction you can’t go pass this ball holder cock ring/anal plug. Yee-ouch!!

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For those looking for the pointed top and flared base of a typical butt plug. This is available in three different sizes, which makes it accessible to a wide variety of players. Doms, your sub will appreciate the thoughtfulness of this gesture!

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Finally, the piece de resistance. If your sub needs their neck braced while they also have their ass plugged, this is our deluxe option, and one worth consdering if you are highly experience in the BDSM lifestyle. You’ll find that your sub is totally ready for whatever you want to do to them–they can’t really move! That’ll show them for breaking the rules.

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9 Hottest Tail Butt Plugs (UPDATED JUNE 2018!)

Are you a beautiful fox? Or a cute kitten? Or a lovely bunny? How about a puppy? Either way, you *definitely* need a tail butt plug.

Everyone needs a cute fluffy tail, whether you’re new to petplay or an experienced player.

Check out this article for the 9 best tails of 2018!

These beautiful, LONG tails are our best-selling tail. They’re 78cm long (30 whole inches), and they’re available in a variety of solid colors.

If you want your tail to drape along the ground like a proud fox, this is the tail for you. They’re 100% artificial fur, so they’re vegan and totally ethical. All our customers have been extremely satisfied, they say they’re extremely fluffy and stay together well.

Those looking for a more medium-length fox tail might be thrilled about this one. It’s popular as well, but it doesn’t have the same drape-on-the-ground length that our giant tail does.

You still get our signature Tail Plugs commitment to quality, as well as some seriously dazzling colors to choose from. Check it out!

Ah, the bunny tail. An elegant classic of the tail family.

For those who like to nom on carrots and hop around like cute little bunnies–if that’s you you might also find our carrot wand particularly useful! We have some great bunny tail colors–it’s easy to try out and see if you have an inner bunny side.

Coming in at number 3, this beautiful, thick fox tail butt plug is for the more sophisticated and elegant foxes out there. It is 40cm long—about 14 inches–and features thick and fluffy that is sure to inspire awe.

The white tip is another characteristic feature. It’s perfect for a fox who knows what they want!

The fashionable eveningwear of tail butt plugs, this blue and black thick plug would pair elegantly with a sexy suit or bondage wear. It has a stunning color to it that almost looks natural.

Blue is meant to be an erogenous color–check out this tail today.

We all know that unicorns have rainbow tails. So obviously, you have to have a rainbow tail butt plug in order to be a good unicorn! Ours come with either silicone or stainless steel plugs (up to you), so everyone can be the unicorn they’ve dreamt of being. Neeeeeeigh!!
It’s traditionally quite difficult to find tails like this–thick and dense tails like an adorable cat. I personally LOVE them. This one comes with a tiny little bow and bell, so that your master will know exactly when you’re coming! That’s helpful. I think they’re really cute and great for good kitties everywhere.

Good ponies and horses everywhere have very specific requirements, which are quite different from the more “typical” fox tail plugs. I say “typical” in quotes, because pony play is JUST as important as fox play (as any pony will tell you…or maybe they’ll just say “Neeeeeeeigh!” instead)

This one has beautiful blonde horse hair, perfect for any pony. Be your master’s little pony tonight! 

Who’s a good boy?? Who’s been a good girl? Puppy play makes SO much sense–it’s very easy to reward lil dogs for good behavior and punish them for bad. Any serious puppy player is going to need a silicone tail, which you can get here. It’s a nice length–not too long, but also long enough that it moves when you wiggle your little puppy butt.

Pet Play Gear and Tail Butt Plugs, Oh My! 13 Must-Have Butt Plugs (UPDATED OCTOBER 2018)

We humans often get bored easily in our daily life. From TV shows to our lovemaking sessions, we always need something new and kinky to spice up our interest. Thankfully, we are living in an era that has plenty of options to heighten the blissful orgasmic experiences. Amongst all the godly things available to us, a few of them are the Tail Butt Plugs and Petplay gear. Let’s take a look at some of the very best sex toys and find reasons why we need them in our lives.

Fox Tail Stainless Steel Butt Plug

Of all the tail Butt Plugs, this is our number one choice. As the name suggests, it is made from stainless steel and gives an amazing sensations in the anal region.  This butt plug comes in various colors that can easily heighten your sexual desire like Black, Pink, Red and Grey. You can simply fit it inside your anal region and couple it up with any sexy outfit while you wait for your partner to come home from work.

The best thing about tail butt plugs is that they are discreet and you can have fix them inside yourself and take them wherever you go to keep things always on the edge. When time comes and with a few correct moves, you will get the sweetest, eye rolling shivering orgasm. Very easy to clean and highly comfortable for prolonged usage. It stimulates the areas which have never received attention; ‘truly’ blissful experience. And yes don’t worry about packaging. It is extremely discreet.

Yes Daddy Tee

This cute little T-Shirt is perfect for times when you are feeling too feminine and want to be dominated by a masculine body. The Shirt comes in all sizes and feels tighter against your breasts making them and nipples pop out a bit more. Call your partner in a sexy accent after wearing this shirt and you will instantly have his attention.

Put those fingers in your mouth and take your partner’s name with a slutty feel while wearing this T-Shirt. Your partner will be thrilled to have your submissive attention and he is sure to grab every inch of your luscious meat. Bring extra kinkiness with our tail butt plugs and you both will get off like crazy.

7 Piece Bondage Set

Whether you want to choke, tie up or blindfold your partner, there is nothing that you cannot achieve in your bedroom with the 7 Piece Bondage Set. No matter how pervert you are, these comfortable BDSM pieces in different colors will fulfill every bit of your fantasy.

Choose from three different colors aimed at delivering a professional BDSM experience. The Bondage Set comes in three exotic colors of Pink, black and Purple. Fantasize your favorite man or woman manhandling you like a hungry beast. Exciting?

Pink Fairy Vibrator

This mini wand vibrator can torture (in a pleasurable way of course) the most insensitive clits. Especially if you are menstruating and feeling horny, this super cute and pinky vibrator will give you multiple wild orgasms.

With its humongous 10 inches’ head piece, you can stimulate the innermost parts of your wet dripping vagina. You can, of course, vary the speed allowing you to orgasm like a crazy nymphomaniac.

Flower Rose Stainless Steel Butt Plug

Want to feel like a pampered princess and a saucy fox at the same time? This beautifully flowered butt plug will help you feel like one and enhance your sexual game. Your anal region contains so many pleasurable nerves that this steel plug will stimulate. It can also be used by gays also.

Imagine your partner feeling the inside of your thighs from behind while analing you with this butt plug. Or you can simply slide on his pole with the plug inside your anus while your partner sucks the life out of your tities. You will achieve orgasms that will awake every cell of your being.

Rabbit Tail Stainless Steel Butt Plug

This squeaky butt plug with a stainless steel can be heated or cooled before inserting. Let your partner enjoy the beautiful sight of your ass twitching from the sensations of this beautiful rabbit tail plug.

He can rub your clitoris or squeeze your tits while poking this from behind in rhythmic manner. A perfect moment where you will cum like crazy. This butt plug is non-poisonous and you can even walk with it to the office or super market, we are just giving ideas.

Pink Silicone Anal Training Set

Want to get pounded by a bigger boy? You first need your anus to fit the larger member which can take you to a new level of orgasm.

This Pink silicone anal set is designed for this particular training. Lube up your ass and gently slide in the butt plug starting with the smallest member. Gradually your butt hole will widen up to accommodate the biggest dick.

Once you are used to it, be assure that you will be asking for a lot of anal sex. Designed to train your ass for everything, you can now easily hook up with the thickest of cocks allowing you to feel immense pleasure which rarely few women get just from anal.

Yes Daddy Panties

Wear these panties, not for just comfort but to instantly arouse your partner. Or wait; are you looking to meet that hot guy tonight and just want him inside at the end of the night? Then try the Yes Daddy Panties.

Imagine lip-locking your partner while he takes your lower off. You bend your back and what he sees? He sees a clear invitation, more of like a ‘begging to pound you like a bitch’ and no mortal man can resist such warm invitation.

You will get the pounding of your life and will cum so hard that you may have a hard time walking straight next morning. A genuinely kinkier way for a frolicking night.

Silicone Dog Tail Butt Plug

This Dog Tail Butt plug has a decent swelling head that will tingle your most erogenous anal areas. Made up of flexible rubber, you can slide in and out this tail butt plug with ease.

Rub your anal with the desired speed. Do not worry at all, this rubber texture is smooth while the tail resembles pretty much to that of a Dog. With the slightest of movements of your hips, the tail will wag and will make you feel like a horny bitch lying on all four that just wants to get thrust by a bull.

White Arctic Fox Mask

If you are into pet play, these masks (resembling the foxes of the Arctic) will simply spice up your naughty acts. The fur is extremely soft with a cute little button nose.

The fetishes of making love like the animals can be highly erotic. If you love seeing animals pounding each other, then this Fox mask will make your sexual organs heightened with ecstasy.

You can also use these masks to have webcam sex with other couples. Or you can make a videotape of yourself hiding your identities and let the other people jerk off to you online. The fur is extremely soft and very easy to clean.

Fox Tail Plug

There are so many options for color, tail shape in this range. Do you have an insatiable sexual appetite that needs experimentation? Or are you bored with your dull sex life and just want to enhance the experience with your partner? Whatever the case, these butt plugs imitating a Fox Tail can give you powerful seductive appearance making your partner sexually aroused within minutes.

The foxtail of various shapes can give such heavenly pleasurable feelings that you can probably keep orgasming with it. Even men in heterosexual relationships can use it to enhance their lovemaking sessions.

Yes Daddy Crop Top

These tops cover the half part of your mammary glands. No matter what shape or size your breasts are, this crop top ‘Yes daddy’ will ooze out your sexuality to the upper limits.

Let your partner come back from work and show up wearing these Crop Top Shirts. He will be mouthwatering seeing you in these Crop Tops and will just try to eat out those melons of yours.

Imagine riding on top of your partner with this crop top. As you can maneuver his pole in any way, he will simply be gazing right through those half covered breasts of yours making him stay hard for the session. A must clothing for any couple.

Yes Daddy Fancy Panties

Panties are the doorways to your glory hole. A powerful way to spice up your sex life is to wear these Yes Daddy Panties with different labels like “Fuck me Hard”or “Satan Girl”.

Show yourself up wearing these sexy panties and your partner will be aroused within minutes.  Let your partner gaze through those comfy panties while he thinks about ravaging that sweet little hole of yours hidden behind the sexy panties like an animal.

These were just a handful of products that we have in our store. Use your imagination, put in some creativity, get some kinky stuff and spice up your boring sex life. You will be amazed by what all you can achieve by just dressed up naughty or putting in a sexy animal tail butt plug or anal hook. Give it a shot!

Pet Play: A Beginner’s Guide To Fun And Safety

Pet Play: A Beginner’s Guide To Fun And Safety

Pet play principles — What’s pet play?

Pet play is a connection between two or more individuals, where one chooses the function of an “Owner”, and another as a “Pet”. It may be anything from easy casual playing, or it may go into more of a severe energetic. This is a type of electricity play found within some clinics of BDSM.

BDSM is a assortment of roleplaying lifestyles and practices, generally sensual in character but not only so, comprising a couple components. These relationships could be both offline and online in character.

Even though a great deal of people can think about both functions to be similar as they both pay the “Submissive” function, there are a number of apparent differences in the type of functions that the submissive will possess. A “Pet” is treated as you’d anticipate a pet to be medicated and act, a more affectionate lively than a Slave, in which the key expectation is “You do as you’re told”, and are usually treated with less esteem, more akin to a item or instrument, than you’d using a pet.

Choosing a Pet

One way is that the submissive acting upon his or her instincts to which animal they most identify with. If the submissive is faithful and playful perhaps they lean towards the pup. If they like being led around and higher protocol training maybe it would be a pony.

Another common way for the creature to be selected is for the Dominant to select for the submissive. If S/He prefers a puppy into a kitty, the submissive will be molded into a pup.The submissive can also change critters from time to time if their pet play is temporary, even if they just enjoy experimentation or if they don’t identify with one particular creature.

One big reason many D/s couples enter pet play is for the embarrassment and dependency aspect. Restricting a submissive’s motion and vocalizations induce them to be that much more reliant on their Dom. Here are a few ways that Doms can train their pets, and what they both get out of the arrangement.

  • Another is because it’s simply fun. It’s a terrific psychological and emotional discharge to have the ability to come home and let loose the constraints of humankind and what individuals are “supposed to be like.”
  • It might also be described as a “de-stressing” procedure from the rigors of everyday life, particularly if the participants work outside the house.
  • It can assist with submission, as taking away some pieces of the submissive’s humanity can take away their sense of equality.
  • Pet play might also be utilised as punishment. If the submissive misbehaves badly it might be a punishment to be put out from the pig stalls with the pigs for a time period, or whatever animal is available, and made to behave like that creature as the punishment.

The two parcipants, before any play happens, need to have conversation beforehand about soft and hard limits. Be sure to talk about what you want from the connections, expectations for your play, and safewords in the event of any problems happening. All these pre-talks before play permit for the play to stick to the most important BDSM creed:

Safe, Sane, and Consensual

Safe — The participants are expected to maintain the play secure for both parties. This function is obviously more significant for the Dominant from the connection, given they’re normally those in the majority of control. That can be not as a problem for internet play since there’s less danger involved than physical play, but nevertheless are anticipated.

Sane— The two parties are expected to take care of others psychological in addition to physical demands, this will be to stop incidents in which the sub can have a breakdown if play becomes stressful in their mind-set. Aftercare in most play, and in frequent points should in a more duration energetic, ought to be that either side may assess the play, address some issues, and make sure that both parties maintain a wholesome mind-set after play stops.

Consensual— All of play and strategies must be agreed upon. Despite play between consensual non-consent, there’s still a very clear understanding of exactly what is and is not permitted to take place, and that some requirements of a Safeword are preserved and addressed. Both parties must be well educated and be in a position to call off play in ANY stage if Limits are all broken.

A difficult limit is something which under no circumstances ought to be tried by both party. All these would be the “Definitely not likely to occur” category and also the dominant needs to be respectful of these.

A Soft limitation is something at which under most situations is not desirable, but might be tried if the topic is at a mindset prepared to test them, together with additional care anticipated from the dominant to be sure the play does not push too much and outcome in almost any freakouts.

This is where somebody calling a safeword is the most common if something tried becomes too embarrassing.

Safewords

A safeword is a term, phrase, or sign, which some thing is incorrect for a certain reason, and also the Dominant should cease for their own health. That is more often typical in S&M and B&D, but may be used for almost any play if something isn’t right. The dominant should ALWAYS honor a safeword, and attempt to handle the issue when at all possible, before continuing following the sub has contributed an ok. Safewords is any word, word, gesture, or signal, agreed upon before play begins, which would not naturally develop during play. This usually means that a safeword should not always be “No” “Stop” “Do not”. As those may be utilized to express need for longer, or as a normal response to a aspect to this play.

As this obscure word like “Banana” or “Bathmat” is utilized, so as to be unmistakable throughout play. In cases where speaking is not possible, (For instance if the man or woman has been gagged or, more likely in this circumstance, in trance) Something such as humming a instantly recognisable tune like a national anthem or recognisable jingle is an efficient means to avoid this restriction should that be levied on the topic throughout play.

What Might My Master Make Me Do?

  • Limit movement through bondage.
  • Restrict verbal communication, maybe to only particular words or animal sounds like “woof!”
  • Training exercises for example tricks for dogs, walking leads and leashes or for ponies pulling a cart/plow.
  • Eating and drinking from bowls without using hands and/or silverware.
  • Learning how to use a litter box instead of a bathroom, or even going outside.
  • Begging at the manner of the creature you identify with, like a puppy whining.
  • Not being permitted on furniture without permission.

Safety Tips To Be Mindful For

  • In regards to eating real animal food, although it’s okay for perhaps a brief scene, it’s dangerous to do this on a regular basis. People have different nutritional requirements than animals do, and it’s extremely important to get your nutritional needs met
  • There are a number of ways to simulate animal treats and food such as mashing up meatloaf with ketchup, using stews as well as baking treats from the shapes of bones and such.If you decide to use shock or training collars, please, PLEASE read the directions! On a personal level, I’m not into electrical play, but it’s out there. So please, be cautious and safe.
  • If you set your pup slave to a kennel, please remember they’re quite cramped. You don’t want your puppy slave to be ruined from being in that position for extended amounts of time.
  • When the submissive has had their ability to move and talk restricted it’s incredibly important that some kind of communication is available to them so that they could communicate if something has occurred or gone incorrect, both emotionally and physically.
  • Additionally, in my opinion with a human pet may add some obligation into the Dom because when some of the submissive’s humanity is removed and particularly if their communication is limited, the Dominant must that a lot more conscious of the submissive’s frame of mind.

Aftercare

BDSM may have breeds on all involved, and also what happens later play is just as, or more significant than what occurs throughout. Subs and doms can undergo “Drop” Where following a particularly intense session once the endorphins, adrenaline, and dopamine which has been created in the play, begin to fall, and also the subject (And sometimes the dominant, although this is not as common) can endure psychological and physical pressures throughout the fall till they are in a steady level.

· Infection and decreased energy

· Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness

· Loss of interest in hobbies or activities after pleasurable, such as sex

· Persistent aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive Issues That Don’t ease even with therapy

Conclusion

I hope that you’ve enjoyed this article about petplay. My store sells a wide variety of petplay gear, tail plugs, and anal plugs!