DDLG Anxiety: Tips and Tricks for Calming an Anxious Little

Many people suffer from anxiety and panic disorders, and while it is still always best to seek professional help if and when you can, as a Daddy or a Mommy with a little who has to manage through these stressful situations, it is so important to understand how to calm a little, and what the best methods for helping a little who suffers from anxiety flare-ups are.

Listed below are some ways to help your little come down from an anxiety or panic attack.

The best methods for dealing anxiety often involve distraction in some way.

By drawing a person’s mind away from the problems making them anxious, and helping bring them back to reality, you can calm and console them better.

There are many methods that do so, and we will go over some of the ones that work best for me.



Grounding is a technique that involves giving your mind an active task.

The one my Daddy uses involves finding things that involve your five senses.

Five things you can see, four things you can hear, three things you can touch, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste.

This one is a sort of game you can play which can work even better for a playful little.

However, sometimes the anxiety is too much and focus is not something attainable right away and needs to be worked towards.

In those more dire cases, grounding can be achieved by giving your little something easier to focus on.

Start by using calm, soft tones.

Have them focus on your voice and the words you are saying.

Bring them something that might help them ground – a favourite stuffie for them to hole, a blanket to touch – something tactile that they can grab and busy their hands with until they are abke to be responsive.

Then move on to grounding by helping them become aware of their surroundings, the familiarity of them, and their place amongst them.


Proper breathing is essential to attaining a certain level of calm during an anxiety attack. There are various ways to go about regulating one’s breathing.

Breathing in time with a GIF is a popular method, but I prefer humming.

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By picking a favourite song and humming it, you can regulate your breathing and be comforted by something familiar.

For a little with a fondness for music, this technique can work wonders.

Start by telling them what you are goong to hum and telling them to hum along.

If they are okay with being touched at this time (sometimes they aren’t) then stroke their back gently in time with the tempo of the song.

Choose a song that is slow and measured, if possible.

Another tried, tested and true method of slowing someone’s breathing is to count out the length of a breath: “inhale, 2, hold, 2, out, 2, 3, 4.”

It gives them a singular focus instead of having their minds fragmented and running rampant.

Be Calm and Patient

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Sometimes a little bit of monkey see, monkey do can help.

When your little sees that you are calm and collected it will help them realize that they are not in a place or situation that is dangerous to them.

They are safe with you, and you are okay, so it’s okay for them to be okay.

It urges them to aspire to the same calm state that you have managed to maintain.

If you are panicing right along with them, it only fuels the fire.

Use soothing tones when you speak.

Use simple words and short sentences so as not to confuse.

Do not ask too many questions, especially if they are having a hard time breathing or focusing.

Get them to a point where they are more lucid first.

And never ever rush them.

Sometimes it may take a few moments.

Other times it may take hours.

Be prepared to spend the time and do not abandon them in the midst of their time of need.


The main cause of anxiety is fear and worrying about what might happen, but putting yourself in a present-focused state of mind, you can calm down.

Have your little ask themselves what’s happening at the current time.

Are they safe?

Have they run those errands they were supposed to?

Did they put the milk back in the fridge?

If there’s something they need to do, it’s better to do it rather than worry about the future.


Some people with anxiety or panic disorders do have prescribed medication that will help them calm down.

Ask your little if they have a prescription that will help and that they want to take.

If so, administer the proper dosage.

Make sure you read the label carefully before giving angone medication.

Continue to help clam them down while the medication takes effect.

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Addressing The Issue

Once your little has calmed down and they are in a state of mind where they can communicate effectively and the topic will not trigger another attack, ask them if they want to talk about what happened.

Encourage them by telling them they are safe to express whatever is alarming or concerning them, and reassure them that you are there to help, never to judge, and will stand by them as they work through whatever has them anxious.

Try not to just give platitudes.

Be gentle about offering ideas for solutions.

Read the situation – tone, body language, diction.

If they really are not ready to find a way to fix the issue, do not push the matter.

In Conclusion…

Dealing with anxiety can be really hard for all parties involved.

I know from both ends.

Always remember, no matter who you are, if you have anxiety and panic in your life, this does not make you any less, by any means.

If you are a little who is prone to anxiety or panic attacks, please always let your significant others know. It is nothing to be ashamed of.

But also always understand not everyone has the capacity to handle anxiety.

You will need to decide whether that is a trait you will need in a partner, or if your partner is willing to learn.

And likewise, dominants with a submissive who suffers from these types of disorders, if you cannot handle it, be honest and upfront about this.

If you are capable or willing to try, then let them know and work together on the best ways for both of you to handle such situations should they arise.