How To Use Butt Plugs: The Ultimate Guide

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Butt plugs are a fun and varied kind of toy for those with an interest or fondness for anal play.

There are many kinds of butt plugs, and many ways to use them, allowing a wide range of people to enjoy them for different reasons.

Decorated butt plugs can be used during sex to add extra stimulation, or by yourself for masturbation or even a hidden bit of pleasure for a night out on the town.

Butt plugs with tails can be used during sex for pulling, or during regular activities, worn about the house to help stay in pet space.

There are also vibrating butt plugs, for those who enjoy more exciting anal stimulation.

Perhaps you are interesting in exploring anal play and want to know the ins and outs of what you will need and how to proceed.
If so, then you’ve come to the right place.

Types of Lube


Let’s start with the basics!


There are three main types of lubricants out there for you to pick from, oil-based, silicone-based, and water-based.

Each of these three types has its upsides, but also their own drawbacks.

Oil Lubricants

Oil-based lubricants are great for extended use of toys like butt plugs or any other kind of insertable.

They last a long time without drying out, and are smoother, meaning it will feel easier moving a toy in or out.

However, they come with the drawback of being incompatible with latex, whether it be latex clothing or a latex condom.

An oil-based lubricant will eat through the latex, and the resulting mix can be dangerous.

It’s safest to use oil-based lubricants on metal, glass, or silicone toys and butt plugs.

Oil-based lubricants are also harder to clean up, as they don’t dissolve in water, so make sure you have plenty of time set aside for cleaning.

Never use petroleum jelly.

The best kinds are gentle, natural oils, like jojoba oil, for example.

Silicone Lubricants

Silicone-based lubricants are similar to oil-based ones in that they stay wet a long time, and don’t dry out, they also share that same smooth feeling.

They stay wetter for longer and so are really good for prolonged play, especially of the anal variety.

Silicone lubes are also hypoallergenic, meaning they are unlikely to cause an allergic reaction or irritate sensitive skin.

Unlike oil-based lubes, they can be used with latex toys or condoms safely, but they will dissolve other silicone products.

Using silicone lube with a silicone toy or plug will be very dangerous to the user’s health.

The silicon can be absorbed into the body, and cause serious harm.

Silicone-based lubricants are also easier to clean up afterwards, making it easier to safely clean and maintain your toys.

Water Lubricants

Water-based lubricants are super versatile, being safe to use with any toy, however they can dry out fast, producing a sticky residue.

They can be used with plugs and other toys safely.

You just have to make sure to regularly re-apply the lube, and to be mindful if it begins drying.

They are also the easiest kind of lube to clean up, being soluble in water.

However this also means they are not the best choice for any anal play in water.

Some of the better lubricants on the market that you might want to look into are:

Water-based lubricants

Sliquid Natural Lube (Amazon)
Aloe Cadabra (Amazon)
Pink Water (Amazon)

Oil-based lubricants

Jojoba oil
Coconut oil
Olive oil

Silicone-based lubricants

Uberlube (Amazon)
Wet Platinum (Amazon)
Swiss Navy Silicone Lubricant (Amazon)
Pjur Original (Amazon)
Gun Oil (Amazon)

Remember to stay clear of lubes containing propylene glycol, parabens, glycerin, L-Argenine and petroleum.


For a beginner, the different materials may seem a bit confusing, but they are very simple.

Silicone plugs will be warmer and softer than the alternative of glass or metal.

If you’re worried about using a plug for your first time, a silicone plug will be a safe choice.

It is also better for anal training and prolonged use with less discomfort.

Softer plugs will give a very different feeling from harder plugs.

You may wish to buy a second plug made from glass or metal, once you are comfortable with your silicone plug.

Silicone plugs do come with the drawback of not being safe for use with silicone lubricants, though.

You should use only water- or oil-based lubricants with a silicone plug.

Metal and glass plugs are safe for use with any lubricant, so if you have lube left over from your silicone plug, you can use it safely with a glass or metal plug if you decide to buy one.

Glass plugs are made of pyrex – a heat, crack and break resistant glass that is body-safe and fun to use.

Definitely a harder material than silicone, it should be used once you are comfortable with anal insertables.

Both pyrex and steel plugs are smooth to use and so easier for anal play that involves any sort in and out movement.

They can be cold at first but will quickly warm to the body’s temperature for better comfort.

While you can wear or use glass or steel plugs for long periods of time, they may cause discomfort if you are not used to them.

Take it slow.

The best way to work yourself to this point is through anal training.

Anal Training

Depending on the size of your butt plug, you may want to stretch yourself out first.

A smaller training plug may only require a few minutes of stretching with fingers, but a large plug may need you to swap between smaller plugs.

Using your fingers, you’ll want to stretch your anus slightly and slowly, don’t rush yourself, and relax your stomach.

There are a number of anal training kits you can find at a variety of sex toy and kink shops online.

Once you feel confident you can insert your plug, you’ll want to follow the steps listed in the next section that explores the nitty gritty on how to safely insert your plug.

How to Insert A Butt Plug

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You’ve finally made it! You’ve purchased your first plug, you also have some great lube.

Now it is time for the test drive.

Inserting a butt plug may seem daunting, but the most important part is relaxation.

You’ll want to pick the right position for insertion which depends on a variety of factors.

If your plug has a suction cup or flat base, you can secure it to the floor, the bathtub basin, etc.

, and you will want to slowly lower yourself onto it.

If you can secure it to a wall you can also push back to insert.

Doing so in the doggy position is easiest.

For decorated plugs or those with tails, laying on your side is easiest and most efficient.

It keeps your muscles relaxed and does not cause discomfort in trying to reach.

Whichever position you pick, you must be able to relax yourself.

If staying on your knees is causing you to tense your stomach and pelvic floor muscles, you will have a harder time with the insertion.

Once you have chosen a position that works for you, start pressing the plug into your butt.

The first layer, the one you can see, will be easy enough to push the toy into.

The sphincter muscles however, will prove stubborn at first.

They usually begin around 4cm into the anus, and will clench without you meaning to sometimes.

The tip to passing the sphincter is to relax your stomach, and move slow.

Trying to cram it in will only hurt you, and could lead to a serious injury.

You need to move slowly and let your sphincter relax each time you make some progress.

Once you have made some progress, continue the same way until the largest section of the plug begins to enter.

Your sphincter may clench up, but you need to remain persistent.

Continue to push steadily, and always remember to breathe in a measured fashion.

When you pass the bulbous shape of the plug, you will find it tapers down.

That is where your anus will close around the plug.

The base is to remain outside of the body so that you will be able to remove it without issue.

When you are ready to remove the plug, you will want to grab the stem of the plug, and start gently pulling.

The problem here is that unlike when you insert the plug, the widest part needs to come out first.

Using force here may hurt you, and prove ineffective in removing the plug.

You’ll want to get into a position like before, where you can relax, and begin pulling the toy, while pushing with your stomach, as though you are having a bowel movement.

It may feel uncomfortable at first, but repeating a similar method from before, to remove it slowly and steadily, you will be able to remove the plug.
For longer plugs with graduated bulbs, take each one slowly.

Never ever attempt to forcefully pull the plug from your body as this may cause perforation of the walls or anal prolapse.


There are many types of plugs for you to test out and a number of ways to get started.

The best way is to start small and soft and work your way up in size and to harder materials.

Always use the right lube to assist in insertion and removal of the plug.

When inserting, slow and steady wins the race.

Relax as best you can and forge forward.

Anal play can be great as an addition to other types of play or fun on its own.

Enjoy experimenting to find the most fulfilling way to add anal play to your sex life!