Creating The Slippery Situations You Want To Get Into
The majority of bad sexual encounters are mainly because things didn’t get wet enough.
There is nothing sadder than a dry hand job and, honestly, a dry vagina borders on questionable.
Similarly, lubrication is just as important when you’re rubbing or stroking one out.
This is why a big bottle of Jergens and a box of Kleenex is a staple on any guy’s bedside table.
The main reason why wetter is better is because you want to avoid chaffing.
The sexual organs are the most sensitive parts of the body and you want to make sure that everything is slippery and comfortable down there to get the most pleasure out of your more intimate times.
You can prevent all sorts of disasters from happening just by taking the easy step of adding lubrication before you get right down to business.
Let’s cover the basics first. Why is it important to use and get the right lube?
If we’re going to be totally honest here, everything isn’t always ideal when you want to get it on.
Sometimes, we need that extra help to get things going.
Here are the most usual situations where a tube of lube would definitely come in handy.
Reasons to use lube
Good old fashioned vaginal sex
Sometimes, even though she’s in the mood, her body says otherwise.
Don’t take it against your girlfriend.
How wet she gets down there doesn’t always correspond to how turned on she is.
In reality, the vagina’s natural lubrication depends a lot on her ovulation cycle.
I’m sure you’ve noticed before that there are certain times of the month when she’s wetter than usual, right?
The consistency of her juices could also vary.
It could get a little thick when she’s closer to her period.
The fact of the matter is, there are plenty of reasons why she could be dry from time to time and most of it has nothing to do with you.
She could be more stressed out than usual or she’s on antidepressants or it could be as simple as using regular bath soap down there.
Anyway, there is no shame in reaching for a bottle of lube when you want to fool around and things aren’t exactly going well down there.
And honestly, she’ll probably appreciate it more than you do.
Straight dudes will never know the discomfort of having something hard rammed into you when you’re just not ready for it.
At least that’s what my girlfriend says.
The more lubricated you both are, the better sex you’ll have and the more frequently it’ll probably happen too.
Knocking on the backdoor
The anal canal has no natural lubrication.
It’s not going to wet back there the way a vagina can.
And even though sticking things into the back door has been one of man’s longstanding kinks, the fact of the matter is, things aren’t supposed to go in your butt.
Before you start enjoying this activity (because both parties certainly can), it’s always going to be uncomfortable at least for the first few times.
You have to take your time and explore to get used to the sensation and learn how to enjoy it.
As a general rule, ass play should always come hand-in-hand with lubricants.
Trying to put things in there, even something as small as a finger or a prostate toy, will always be rough if you do it dry.
I wish someone would have told me that it’s better to go the natural route when it comes to masturbation the au natural way.
The skin of the penis is very, very delicate.
You don’t want to be putting any harsh chemicals on there that could be found in commercial lotions.
Olive or coconut oils are you best bets.
As you know, these are very good for your skin too.
Talk about dual purpose!
You probably figured out pretty early that self-pleasuring is easier and it feels better if you use some kind of lube.
Whether you’re a guy or a girl, from Fleshlights to dildos, lube is an indispensable accompaniment to any of your favorite sex toys.
Most sex toys are made of medical-grade silicone and won’t pair well with anything other than water-based lubes.
Even though this is kind of a hassle to use because it dries pretty quickly and requires constant reapplication if you’re going at it for a while, this is still better for maintaining the materials of your sex toy.
Some toys allow for oils.
That could feel amazing too.
But I’ve never come across a toy that lubricates itself, so those two always go hand in hand.
Check yourself before you wreck yourself
Using lube can prevent you from getting all sorts of infections.
Now, how exactly do those two correlate?
Without proper lubrication, the friction will compromise your skin.
This is especially dangerous because you’re thrusting in a delicate area.
This will irritate your skin, open it up and make you more prone to contracting nasty diseases.
In addition to that, if you’re one of the more careful ones (and I do applaud you for that), it’s important to know that only water-based lubes are compatible with condoms.
Yes, most condoms come are lubed right out of the packet, but if you’re going to be at it for the whole night, you’re going to need more of that wet stuff.
Using any other kind of lubrication will compromise the materials of the condom, making it ineffective.
So whether you’re trying to avoid HIV or unexpectedly having to pay for child support, it is always better to be safe than sorry.
When you think massage, your mind automatically goes to sensual oils and lotions.
While this is all well and good, did you know that silicone-based lube is a way better alternative?
It makes for easier clean up and won’t leave you feeling like you’ve dipped yourself in a vat of lard.
There are also warming lubes that will add to relaxation and pain relief.
The best lube to use in any situation
Lube is not as basic anymore as you would think.
There are all sorts of different options available on the market right now that you can choose from and pair with a specific activity.
Kinds of lube
First, let’s explore what kinds of lubes there are so we can figure out what they can be good for.
Oil lubes are usually more natural, so they’re less likely to contain harmful chemicals and preservatives.
Out of everything, I personally think this feels the best.
But it does have it drawbacks.
As I mentioned above, condoms, which are primarily made of latex, really don’t go together.
It weakens it and creates tiny holes that could allow your little guys to swim through.
It’s also important to note that oil-based lubes pose a higher risk for getting infections.
It’s thicker and it’s a bacteria magnet, so clean up is a must.
You should be concerned about getting this on your sheets too.
Oil stains are hard to remove.
Silicone-based lubes hardly have any water in them.
The best thing about silicone is that it’s hypoallergenic, so you don’t have to worry about breaking into hives when you use this one.
And since silicone is not absorbed by the skin, it just rests on the surface and they last longer, so there would be no need to keep reapplying it over and over again.
This is safest off all lubes, but it dries significantly quicker than the rest.
They’re also not as slippery.
Think hand sanitizer gel.
The upside is that they’re the cheapest way to go and are the easiest to find and they’re compatible with virtually any sex toy.
You would think that water would be the best lubricant, but you would know that that’s not true if you’ve ever had sex in a pool.
If you want to go natural, there are several options that are available.
But remember, this type of lube is harder to find and generally more expensive.
They are specialty potions by “green” stores and those who advocate going organic.
Natural lubes more often than not plant-based like aloe gel, so this is good news for all you vegans out there.
There has also been a rise in sales for coconut oil.
The oil from this tropical fruit can do miracles for just about any part of your body from your hair to your metabolism.
And I have to say, it feels damn good too.
This is better for him than it is for her.
Women should avoid this one because it changes the delicate pH of the vagina and that’s just yeast infection waiting to happen.
For guys, this is okay if you’re just using your hand to jerk off.
There’s always of jar of petroleum jelly in everyone’s bathroom cabinet.
Its consistency is pretty thick so a little goes a long way.
If you can’t pick from these options, you can easily just get a combination of what you like.
Maybe you like the feeling of a water-based lube and the lasting quality of the silicone one.
These would be great to use with a partner, not so much with sex toys.
The best of the best
Now that the basics are out of the way, let’s get into the best options for every situation where you might need to lube up.
The best water-based lubricant
The problem with water-lube is that it usually doesn’t feel all that good.
The reason why they’re so popular is because they are the safest and the easiest to find.
Just go to a 7-eleven and there’s probably one or two brands right next to the condoms.
I’ve tested a lot of water-based lubes and found the best one.
It’s called the Shibari Premium Personal Lubricant. It’s a bit on the pricey side at $1.20 per ounce on Amazon, but trust me, it’s worth it.
If you go for the bigger size, you can save a lot more money and it comes in an easy-pump bottle, which is great because it’s more convenient.
The Shibari is my favorite because it doesn’t feel like any other water-based lubricant.
It’s silky and leaves the skin soft.
Rubbing dries out water-based lubes pretty quickly.
This is why you have to constantly reapply it.
Well, with the Shibari, it’s not necessary to do that as often.
This perfect for vaginal sex, playing with sex toys and it’s condom-safe.
The best oil-based lube
My favorite oil-based lube is the Coconu.
It’s vegan and it’s even edible.
It smells amazing, too, and it always brings back memories from my trip to Bali for some reason.
If you really want to go natural, jojoba oil is a good alternative as far as pure formulas go.
What’s great about jojoba oil is that is has antibacterial properties.
To practice safe anal sex, you want to go with something thick and slick, so oil-based is the best choice because it doesn’t dry as quickly.
The best silicone-based lube
Silicone-based lubes are the most expensive and you’ll have better luck finding them online than in actual stores.
That being said, it’s also the most long-lasting, which means you’re not going to need much of it at a time.
Just one or two pumps of this stuff and this will last you a while.
My favorite silicone-based lube is the Swiss Navy Premium.
It works just as well as any fancier brands, but it doesn’t cost as much.
The best lube for normal sex
The key thing here is to remember that you don’t want to mess with her vaginal pH, so oil-based lubes are a no-no right off the bat.
If you don’t keep this in mind, this makes her more likable to get infections.
We like to use HerSolution Gel.
The reason we like this so much is that not only is it water-based and won’t compromise the balance of her pH, it’s also a libido enhancer too.
I like to rub this all over her clitoris and pussy lips and she swears it’s a lot easier for her to achieve an orgasm with this product.
Apparently, there is a stimulant called L-Arganine that’s in this special blend that induces blood flow to area, making it more sensitive.
This is a great addition to foreplay.
You’re welcome, fellas.
The best desensitizing lube
If anal is something you really want to try and can’t get past the first hump, as it can be quite painful at first, a desensitizing lube could really help you out.
It numbs the area while doing what a normal lube would do.
My girl’s favorite desensitizing lube is the Cleanstream Relax.
It’s very effective and does the trick, even though at first, she was reluctant about it.
She told me that she felt no pain at all.
You’ll also find no traces of it after you take a shower.
It doesn’t leave some greasy residue like other desensitizing lube brands.
However, I think it’s important to note that this poses some risks.
If you numb the area, then you don’t really know what’s going down there.
For all you know, you could be doing some serious damage in your anal canal and you would have no idea that it’s even happening.
So keep that in mind if you’re considering this option.
The trick is just to make sure that she’s relaxed and she’s not tense down there.
If you’re planning an epic masturbation session and don’t think you can last that long, this could also be a solution to that.
You don’t want to use a lot of it and you don’t want to use it the entire time, but this could be a great help if you want to take a “break” and don’t exactly want to stop.
The best edible lubes
This is great for oral sex, but it’s more a novelty thing to bring into the bedroom and doesn’t actually have much use after the fact.
For some people, going down on someone just isn’t their favorite thing, so this could be good way to make it a lot more pleasant.
We see a lot of articles on Cosmo encouraging women to bring food into the bedroom.
I’ve never really liked that idea.
It sounds messy and unnecessary.
But if taste is something that you feel you might enjoy, there are so many flavored lubes out there that you can choose from.
My favorite one is a departure from the normal fruity route (because when we think flavored, we think fruit).
It’s called Wicked Aqua Mocha Java.
It’s water-based, so it’s easy to clean and won’t stain your sheets.
It honestly tastes and smells like you’re going down on a delectable mocha cake.
The best warming lube
This option is really more for the dudes who are going solo.
I don’t find much use for this when I’m having sex with an actual woman because, given that hopefully you’re doing it with someone who is alive, it’s plenty warm down there to begin with.
However, if you’re playing with a toy or some sex doll, you might want to use something like this for the added realism.
This is actually very convenient and allows you to skip having to warm up your sex toy.
You don’t have to do anything else other than just the usual lube application before you go to town on it.
My favorite one is the classic KY Warming Jelly.
It’s a well-known brand and it does the job well.
It’s also compatible with any sex toy out there.
The best lube for sensitive skin
If you already know that your skin could develop some reactions to certain products, it would be smart to test out lubes on other places of your body other than your junk.
Down there is not where you want feel any burning or itching.
Thankfully, there are many hypoallergenic options out there for people whose skin is picky and sensitive.
My favorite brand is the Isabel Fay.
It’s the highest rated lube for sensitive skin out there and is made of all natural ingredients.
It’s safe for sex toys and condoms too.
I like this one because it hardly smells like anything at all and it is made in US.
That means it has been thoroughly tested in order for it to pass the Health Board.
This is a very safe choice if you’re looking for something that is completely paraben-free.
The best lube for sex toys
The first thing you need to consider is what your sex toy is made of.
By and large, water-based lubes are compatible with all sex toys across the board.
But that doesn’t mean you’re stuck with something water-based if that doesn’t exactly float your boat.
For silicone toys, you’re pretty much stuck with water-based lubes because silicone essentially melts under any other kind of lube.
It would not be wise to damage something you paid good money for.
Just keep in mind that if it’s made of something soft or something meant to mimic real skin, always go for the water-based option.
My favorite water-based lube to use with sex toys is the Please Gel Lubricant.
It’s a light gel.
I usually go for that because I find that going with something thicker makes cumming a lot easier for me.
So if I’m playing with, say, a Fleshlight with an insane texture, it’s better for me to go with something with a thinner consistency so the feeling won’t get too intense.
It’s pretty long-lasting too, as far as water-based lubes go, and it will be good for about 15 minutes of pumping before you have to reapply it.
If you’re into the more kinky stuff like metal toys, you can use pretty much whatever lube you want.
Honestly, metal sex toys are not as intimidating as they are cracked out to be.
We associate BDSM and all that other hardcore stuff with that, but in reality, they’re the most luxurious sex toys around and can be enjoyed by anyone even if you think your sex life is pretty vanilla by most standards.
These are great if you want something that’s versatile (can be used by a guy or girl) and has a little weight to it.
They’re also the easiest to clean.
For our steel butt plugs and metal dildos, we usually use Uberlube.
This is some fancy stuff, but boy, does it feel amazing.
It’s silicone-based and extremely slick.
Like I said before, since it’s silicone-based, you only ever really need to apply it once.
It also comes in a super chic bottle that goes with the whole aesthetic of metal sex toys too.
If it’s that kind of night, we love using this pairing.
Like metal, you can use whatever lube you want with glass.
Glass sex toys are usually dildos or beads and butt plugs.
If you don’t like the idea of playing with glass (because who does?), I can assure you that the make of these things is very sturdy and you don’t have to worry about any sort of breakage.
The great thing about glass is that it’s non-porous.
That means it won’t absorb anything you put on it.
So you could go oil-based or even a hybrid lube.
My girlfriend’s favorite lube for her glass sex toys is the Sliquid Naturals Silver Silicone Lubricant.
That’s a mouthful.
Since it’s silicone-based, it’s perfect for ass play and for massages.
And because we like to live on the edge and use this in the shower, it’s not water-soluble, so it doesn’t wash off under running water.
Plastic sex toys are usually dolls.
Yes, there are some plastic portable sex toys out there, but they’re usually knockoffs of the real thing.
I advise you to steer clear away from these products because they’re not made to pass any health standards here in the States.
But if you’re playing a doll or some plastic anal beads (harder plastic is fine), I have to recommend that you stick with something water-based just in case.
I also have to say that it wouldn’t be a good idea to use any kind of hybrid lubes, soI’d take out the Please Gel for this one as well.
The best lube for travelers
If you travel a lot and your sex toys are always packed away in your suitcase, then you’re going to need lube too.
None of us would be down for carrying big bottles of lube around and you can’t have more than 3.4 ounces in your carry-on.
Thankfully, you don’t have to tolerate just the regular, run of the mill, Durex lube in a packet.
I personally use Licx Gel Lube as it comes in very convenient travel-sized sachets.
It’s water-based so it sex toy compatible.
If you’re a bachelor and are looking to get some action over a weekend getaway, this is safe for condoms as well.
Last minute tips and my final word
As a general rule, when you’re looking for the right kind of lube, it’s best to avoid glycerin, propylene glycol, and chlorhexidine gluconate.
I’m sorry to go scientific all of a sudden, but you’ll thank me later for knowing what you shouldn’t put on your junk.
Overall, lube is there for pleasure, but it does have the added benefit of maintaining sexual health as well.